The “struggle” of starting a family young… Guess what, it’s not as bad as you think!

Having met my now husband in High School, you can believe me when I say I have heard it all when it comes to whether or no you will “make it” as a couple.

  • It’s just high school fling, you know it won’t last
  • Do you really want to be tied down so young
  • I bet you wish you would have never met him, you could have enjoyed College

Yes, our relationship was tested on several occasions but each one made us that much stronger and allowed us to grow and understand one another as a couple.  It was not just a fling, we were very much in love and content with where we were and where our relationship was going.  I would NEVER change a single thing about that day we met on the Deltona High School Track.

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Fast forward to almost 9 years later; now HAPPILY married, homeowners, have a 10 month old daughter and excited to grow our family in the years to come.  My greatest “struggle” is dealing with the comments people may approach you with in the grocery line, out shopping or even some from your friends.

So to you, what I really want to say as a young mom:

  • YES, I am old enough to be married
    • I was 23 when I got married in 2016

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  • YES, we waited until after the wedding to try for a baby, we just got lucky and it happened VERY quick!
    • Chick Fil A employee seriously asked if we waited!
  • YES, she was VERY planned
    • One of the first questions the nurse at my OB’s office asked, seriously!!!
  • Up until a few years ago, if I ever answered the door I still got the “Can I speak to the man or woman of the household”…  Um you’re looking at her buddy!
  • NO, we did not want to experience being Married first because truthfully it felt like we had been married the last 4 years we lived together in our house!
    • Prior to that we lived with my parents…  Since 2009!
  • YES, we want to travel the world, with our CHILDREN whom we are very excited about having!
    • We took an AMAZING honeymoon trip to Rome and Athens knowing we wouldn’t be traveling for a while…  So thank you for your concern haha

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So to say starting a family so young is a “struggle” would almost be unfair because it automatically discounts us as being able to handle things.  Considering my generation, we are already put into a category of “entitled”, “selfish” and “unmotivated” people.  We bust our butts on a daily basis to ensure we are financially stable and our daughter cared for in the best way possible.  Not only that, at the age of 18 we each started saving money and putting away into our 401K.    It is what you make it and with a strong relationship and dedication, it is completely POSSIBLE to be young, have a family and be successful.

I know we are not the only couple successfully moving up in the world at such a young age.  So to us…  Way to freaking go, way to kick the stereotypical misconception that we are “lazy” or my favorite ” expect everything to be handed to you” comments!!! We are far from “struggling”

2 thoughts on “The “struggle” of starting a family young… Guess what, it’s not as bad as you think!

  1. LOVE THIS!! My hubby and I met in college and we got married when I was 24! We also planned our pregnancy a few months after and we’re blessed with our baby boy right before our 1 year anniversary. We’ve definitely had our share of tests and trails but when you know, you just know! So great to see y’all persevering and proving people wrong!

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  2. It’s funny how the world changed. My mom was 23 when she had kids and it was so normal back then. Now people think it’s crazy. I won’t lie, the time my husband and I were married and living together but didn’t have kids yet was the best and I am grateful we had that time. But that was our plan and our time (and we met later in college and it took us 5 years to even live together).
    You gotta go what is best for your family. I grew up with young parents and it was great, and we did travel the world as a family. Plus now my kids have young grandparents too!

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