Having met my now husband in High School, you can believe me when I say I have heard it all when it comes to whether or no you will “make it” as a couple.
- It’s just high school fling, you know it won’t last
- Do you really want to be tied down so young
- I bet you wish you would have never met him, you could have enjoyed College
Yes, our relationship was tested on several occasions but each one made us that much stronger and allowed us to grow and understand one another as a couple. It was not just a fling, we were very much in love and content with where we were and where our relationship was going. I would NEVER change a single thing about that day we met on the Deltona High School Track.
Fast forward to almost 9 years later; now HAPPILY married, homeowners, have a 10 month old daughter and excited to grow our family in the years to come. My greatest “struggle” is dealing with the comments people may approach you with in the grocery line, out shopping or even some from your friends.
So to you, what I really want to say as a young mom:
- YES, I am old enough to be married
- I was 23 when I got married in 2016
- YES, we waited until after the wedding to try for a baby, we just got lucky and it happened VERY quick!
- Chick Fil A employee seriously asked if we waited!
- YES, she was VERY planned
- One of the first questions the nurse at my OB’s office asked, seriously!!!
- Up until a few years ago, if I ever answered the door I still got the “Can I speak to the man or woman of the household”… Um you’re looking at her buddy!
- NO, we did not want to experience being Married first because truthfully it felt like we had been married the last 4 years we lived together in our house!
- Prior to that we lived with my parents… Since 2009!
- YES, we want to travel the world, with our CHILDREN whom we are very excited about having!
- We took an AMAZING honeymoon trip to Rome and Athens knowing we wouldn’t be traveling for a while… So thank you for your concern haha
So to say starting a family so young is a “struggle” would almost be unfair because it automatically discounts us as being able to handle things. Considering my generation, we are already put into a category of “entitled”, “selfish” and “unmotivated” people. We bust our butts on a daily basis to ensure we are financially stable and our daughter cared for in the best way possible. Not only that, at the age of 18 we each started saving money and putting away into our 401K. It is what you make it and with a strong relationship and dedication, it is completely POSSIBLE to be young, have a family and be successful.
I know we are not the only couple successfully moving up in the world at such a young age. So to us… Way to freaking go, way to kick the stereotypical misconception that we are “lazy” or my favorite ” expect everything to be handed to you” comments!!! We are far from “struggling”